Thursday, 9 July 2009

I'm deaf, please speak slowly

When I was a teenager, Pa bought me a T-shirt with the words, ‘I'm blonde, please speak slowly!’ written on it!

I loved that T-shirt! It signified that start of me laughing at my deafness. Until then, I'd been a teeny, tiny, wee bit stroppy about it!

But what really got me, was that people are more likely to observe the instructions on that T-shirt to do with my hair colour, than if I actually tell them I can't hear and they need to speak more slowly!

Mental huh?!

And so, it got me thinking about what would happen if I had a T-shirt made in my Deafinitely Girly shop with ‘I'm deaf, please speak slowly’ on it. Would anybody buy it? I'm not sure I would really, as only I can laugh at my deafness, while other people can laugh with me. With blondes however, it seems it's acceptable to laugh at them, too!

Quite often, if I'm in an environment where I've made a total tit of myself from mishearing something and there isn't time to explain, I will roll my eyes and say, ‘Tsk, I can be so blonde sometimes!’ and the situation is defused! It saves my face when people think I've been rude, and saves their face when they're rude back.

But just occasionally, I relish in telling the intolerant/rude/tutting person that I'm not deliberately ‘acting like a moron’ – their choice of thought, not mine – and I am in fact deaf.

I did it the other day in a Central London store. I'd missed the mandatory bag question, fluffed an answer for the would-you-like-a-storecard question and totally ignored her, it seems, when she asked me to enter my PIN. She huffed and she puffed and threw my shopping bag at me, and that's when I'd had enough.

So, I smiled sweetly at her and said, ‘I’m terribly sorry if I came across as rude just then, I'm actually hard of hearing.’
Her jaw hit the floor and she mumbled incoherently to try and backtrack on her actions. But it was too late – the rest of the queue thought she was a rude shop assistant being nasty to the poor deaf girl.

Hmmm, was that really fair? I mean she wasn't to know I was deaf – but should she have been so rude even though she didn't? I think she should have given me a break before assuming I was the rude one.

And so, from now on I'm going to do that, too. If someone's walking slowly, bumps into me, or doesn't answer me when I speak to them, I will try and give them the benefit of the doubt, try and have a little patience just in case I'm missing the bigger picture. And maybe, eventually, I'll get the same in return.

4 comments:

Bigbro said...

I'd love to apply your philosophy to my fellow travellers on the motorway, but as far as I am aware, it is a legal requirement to be able to see before they give you a licence...... Therefore, they really are all blind f@#%wits.

funnyoldlife said...

I think the shop assistant should've been polite no matter what, after all that's part of their job: customer service. So good on you for speaking up.

I am usually very upfront about being deaf and will tell people I'm deaf so please speak clearly and slow down a bit. Sometimes they get this 'smacked arse' look on their face and ignore me but hey, that's their problem, not mine. It helps to have a very cute hearing dog to do that job for me!

Me said...

Oooh how fab you have a hearing dog! I'd love one! :-D

Squirrlegirl said...

oh man, I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I've encountered rude folks who get huffy when I ask them to repeat themselves. One instance a woman who I had told "I'm hard of hearing" asked me "well then why are you working a phone job?!?" and hung up on me.

Some people...